# Passport Bros Are Facing Regrets: A Salute to Women
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One of my closest friends hails from Eastern Europe. She possesses captivating blue eyes, a slender frame, and the striking white-blonde hair that often draws the attention of certain American men. Young, traditional, and kind-hearted, she embodies what many consider the ideal woman. However, she also has certain expectations: her husband must cover all expenses, work tirelessly to elevate their lifestyle, and consistently indulge her desires. She wouldn’t even entertain a date with a man who doesn’t arrive with a designer gift or offers a lavish dinner. Her disdain for Western men who prefer to unwind with video games instead of working late or pursuing additional ventures is palpable.
It might come as no surprise that many Western men find this arrangement intolerable and often do not wish to pursue a second date. They are taken aback when ‘traditional’ women from abroad are not only forthright about their financial motivations but also possess remarkably high expectations of how a ‘traditional’ man should act. For those who might dismiss this as an exaggeration, I’ll include some entertaining sources at the end to address the inevitable “That’s not true!” from certain circles.
The Reality of Provider Cultures
Shockingly, many men are expressing outrage when they find that their new foreign wives, upon arriving in the U.S., have no intention of contributing financially. They expect their husbands to shoulder all financial responsibilities and often criticize them for not earning more or for not providing a larger living space. This frustration is amusing to me, as these men yearn for a pristine home, a fit spouse, and impeccable cooking, yet they expect all of this without any of the effort required by Western women, who face similar pressures. They seemed to believe they could import a full-time homemaker and part-time escort while still expecting her to contribute financially.
The Challenge of Communication Barriers
You might find it astonishing, but when a woman can only articulate a few phrases in English, while her husband hasn’t made an effort to learn her native language, communication can become quite difficult. Building a meaningful relationship based on shared interests and genuine affection is challenging when you lack insight into her preferences or feelings. This results in a sense of isolation rather than authenticity, reducing the relationship to one of mere physical attraction and financial obligation.
While some individuals do overcome significant language and cultural barriers, many men are starting to recognize that their past partners may not have been as insufferable as they thought. When they sit through awkward dinners with a wife who smiles in confusion at compliments about the meal, it dawns on them that perhaps they should have appreciated the complexities of their previous partners.
The Truth About Marital Intentions
It may come as a surprise, but many foreign women marry for financial security rather than love. Women like Anya, Joti, and Bernila are often drawn to men for their resources rather than their personal attributes. Many men find it shocking when their foreign brides express interest in younger, more engaging partners, demonstrating that marrying solely based on looks seldom leads to lasting happiness.
The Human Side of Foreign Women
It’s often overlooked that women from different cultures have their own personalities and complexities. These women can exhibit the same flaws and issues as anyone else. For instance, they may struggle with cleanliness, have outbursts over household chores, or display flirtatious behavior. The realization that their imported wives are, in fact, human beings with imperfections is a tough pill for some to swallow.
Awareness of Rights
Your foreign spouse will quickly learn about the rights afforded to women in Western societies. She’ll understand that she’s not subject to abusive behavior, can reach out to authorities if necessary, and doesn’t have to stay in an unhappy marriage to maintain her relationship with her children. As she assimilates into her new life, she’ll connect with other women and discover the freedoms she can enjoy, which may highlight the limitations imposed by her husband.
Conclusion
If your goal is to exploit financial disparities to bring home a submissive partner that fits a specific mold, proceed with caution. While you may harbor negative feelings toward Western women, you’ll soon learn how complex and human women truly are. You’ll face the reality of what it means to be a provider and the difficulties that come with marrying someone you don’t truly understand.
To foreign women contemplating relationships with these men, be aware that they often represent the lower end of the social spectrum. Many are socially awkward and have struggled to find companionship in their own culture. If you choose to pursue such a relationship, be prepared to take advantage of the situation, as they often lack the qualities that foster genuine connection.
Further Reading/Sources
- Married To A Filipina, Help Group | Facebook
- https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/the-confessions-of-men-who-ordered-mailorder-brides-10204040.html
- https://collider.com/90-day-fiance-couples-worst-ranked/
- https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3058748/She-spoke-sex-like-housework-Confessions-men-paid-thousands-marry-mail-order-brides-lived-regret-it.html
- https://www.reddit.com/r/sadcringe/comments/zuxzvu/when_you_realise_your_mail_order_bride_doesnt/
- https://www.justanswer.com/family-law/nj4cs-think-made-mistake-foreign-gold-digger.html
- AskAubry ? on X: “Passport Bros so mad their Filipina wives aren’t submissive. ? https://t.co/mnCIL8qNAc" / X
- 90 Day Fiancé’s Most Memorable Breakups | 90 Day Fiancé | TLC — YouTube
- https://www.foxnews.com/media/passport-bro-growing-number-men-ditching-american-women-overseas
- https://www.foxnews.com/opinion/i-gen-z-men-my-generation-not-dating-why-should-we
- https://metro.co.uk/2024/04/30/inside-murky-world-eastern-european-matchmaking-20630555/
- https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3851966/She-married-better-life-married-better-life-Men-live-mail-order-brides-reveal-life-REALLY-like.html