Navigating the Babysitter Landscape in Japan: A Personal Journey
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Chapter 1: The Initial Hesitation
Becoming a mother four years ago, I dove into the world of babysitters, eager to find help, especially during emergencies. Living in Japan, where babysitting isn't yet a widespread practice, I felt isolated without nearby family support, relying solely on my husband. Despite the obvious need during my postpartum struggles, I hesitated to hire help, viewing it as a sign of failure. A deep-seated belief kept me from admitting my need for assistance.
Like many in Japan, I have always valued my privacy. Inviting strangers into my home felt uncomfortable, and I knew this was a common sentiment among my fellow countrymen. During an English lesson with a tutor in the Philippines, I learned about her community's supportive structure, where neighbors and friends readily assist in childcare. Her anecdotes of shared parenting made me yearn for that kind of connection, contrasting sharply with my isolated experience in urban Japan.
Section 1.1: The Shift Begins
Once my daughter began kindergarten, I felt a shift in my approach to motherhood. I began to open my home to others, realizing that I could manage my time more efficiently. As a working mother, I sought to maximize productivity, even inviting bankers to our home for meetings.
However, a challenge arose when a client requested a Zoom call right after the New Year, coinciding with my daughter's kindergarten break. Understanding that my daughter would likely disrupt the meeting, I finally decided to hire a babysitter.
Subsection 1.1.1: A New Beginning
I logged onto a babysitting service and found a local nurse available on the day of my meeting. The platform required an initial virtual meeting to ensure comfort for both the child and the sitter. Although my daughter was initially shy, everything was set.
Section 1.2: The Unexpected Turn
On the day of the babysitter's arrival, my client canceled the call. With a full schedule ahead, I decided to keep the babysitter arrangement. Upon introduction, my daughter stayed close to me, apprehensive. I explained that I would be working while she played.
The babysitter, a gentle soul, engaged my daughter in coloring activities. To my surprise, my daughter gradually opened up, discussing her friends and interests. My initial worries faded as I focused on my tasks, even as she occasionally came to show off her artwork.
Chapter 2: Discovering New Perspectives
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After the babysitting session, my daughter expressed a desire for her new friend to stay longer, showcasing how quickly she had formed a bond. I received feedback from the babysitter about my daughter's talents and communication skills, which filled me with pride. The session cost around $20 for an hour and a half—an affordable investment for my peace of mind.
This experience revealed several valuable lessons:
- My daughter can forge connections easily, even with adults.
- Babysitting can be budget-friendly if approached with productivity in mind.
- The satisfaction of completing tasks while knowing my child is cared for is invaluable.
- The mere availability of assistance can significantly ease my stress.
I now believe that babysitters can be an essential resource for working mothers in Japan. While it’s important to ensure their reliability, having someone to depend on beyond family can simplify life and contribute to our happiness.
Though I no longer engage with the tutor from the Philippines, I've learned that hiring help doesn't compromise my family’s privacy. It’s possible to maintain a sense of privacy while also prioritizing mental well-being and a balanced lifestyle.
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