Uncovering the Truth: Why Women Bend Their Rules for Certain Men
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Chapter 1: The Dual Nature of Women's Dating Rules
When it comes to dating, women often adhere to personal guidelines that can seem inflexible. Phrases like "I don't kiss on the first date" or "I never go home with someone I just met" can feel like a brick wall. While it can be disappointing to face rejection, it's important to realize that these rules can vary based on the individual.
This article delves into the notion that women tend to establish rules for some men while being willing to overlook them for others. If you're not prepared to confront some harsh realities about female behavior, you may want to stop reading now.
I Used to Hear These 'Rules' Frequently
In my early dating days, I tried to be the respectful and patient type. I had heard about the common 'three-date rule' before sex, and I approached my interactions accordingly. However, when I attempted to accelerate things, I'd often be met with, "I’m not that kind of girl."
It was frustrating to learn that some of these women, who claimed to have rules, would later hook up with someone else without hesitation. This inconsistency puzzled me until I started to understand how women categorize men into 'lovers' and 'providers.'
This shift in perspective led me to alter my approach. I moved away from being the 'provider' and embraced the 'lover' persona. I would encourage all men to make a similar transformation.
Section 1.1: Understanding the Divide: Lovers vs. Providers
Over the years, I have encountered various theories explaining why women treat 'lovers' and 'providers' differently. One prevalent idea is that 'lovers' tend to be more attractive, which boosts their confidence and allows them to engage in more adventurous behavior.
The underlying theory suggests that women are more likely to break their self-imposed rules for men they find irresistible. Much like the temptation of indulging in a delicious dessert, the allure of a charming and confident man can lead to a change in behavior.
However, my own experiences tell a different story. While my physical appearance didn't drastically change, the way women responded to me certainly did.
Subsection 1.1.1: When a Woman is Attracted, She Wants to Impress
Imagine meeting someone like Stacey at a bar. By being courteous and respectful, you convey that you see her as a potential girlfriend. Consequently, she may present herself as a 'good girl,' adhering to her rules about dating.
If, however, she encounters a 'lover boy' who exudes confidence and charm, her demeanor may shift entirely. She might show a playful side, eager to impress him, which could include accepting an invitation for a more spontaneous encounter.
This shift highlights the idea captured by the phrase 'Alpha F*cks, Beta Bucks,' emphasizing how attraction can lead to rule-breaking behavior.
Section 1.2: The Importance of Understanding the Game
Another insight I've gathered is that women enjoy sex just as much as men do. However, societal pressures often lead them to be cautious about appearing too eager. If a woman senses that you might judge her for being forward, she will likely enforce her 'rules.'
Yet, if she perceives you as someone who understands the dynamics of attraction, she may feel more comfortable letting those rules slip away.
A 'lover boy' remains true to himself, not altering his behavior to fit her expectations, which often leads to a more genuine interaction.
Chapter 2: Evolving Perspectives in Modern Dating
In the video "Women Will Break Rules For Alphas & Make Them For Betas," the discussion revolves around how women adjust their behavior based on their attraction to men, emphasizing the complexities of dating dynamics.
The second video, "The MAJOR RED FLAGS In A Man You Should NEVER IGNORE | Matthew Hussey," explores the warning signs women should look out for, providing valuable insights into healthy relationships.
As I became more comfortable with flirting, I noticed that women were less likely to adhere to strict romantic rules. Although some would test my boundaries, they often realized that I was unashamedly authentic in my approach.
In today’s dating landscape, apps have made it easier for women to explore without the fear of being judged. This environment creates an imbalance where a small percentage of attractive men attract the majority of women.
As a dating coach, I've observed the trend where many men, who are conventionally attractive, can effortlessly invite women for casual encounters, while others feel the pressure to conform to traditional dating norms.
Encouraging All Men to Embrace Their Inner 'Lover'
If you're still invested in finding a 'good girl,' or if the idea of dating someone more casual makes you uncomfortable, I still urge you to cultivate your 'lover boy' persona. Be playful, flirty, and confident in your sexuality.
This approach can tap into a woman's emotions, making the connection more exciting and authentic. The 'provider' mentality can often feel transactional, lacking the passion that comes with being a 'lover.'
Many providers underestimate their ability to be fun and flirty. Embracing that side of yourself can significantly improve your dating experiences.
Ultimately, when you find someone special, you can reveal your loyal partner qualities, which will be even more appreciated if they are rooted in genuine attraction and excitement.
Women will indeed bend their own rules when they feel a strong connection. It's essential to recognize that attraction can lead to unexpected behaviors, and understanding this dynamic can enhance your dating life.
Stay safe out there, and remember that confidence and authenticity are key in navigating the complex world of dating!