Rediscovering Love: Understanding the Depth of Relationships
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Chapter 1: The Fragility of Love
When something breaks down in our lives, it often feels as if everything is falling apart.
"Everything is going wrong for me..." a client might express during a session.
"What specifically is going wrong?"
"Everything!"
"Can you elaborate on this 'everything'?"
"He doesn’t care for me, he doesn’t want me, he’s not waiting for me, he doesn’t need me."
This sense of loss typically revolves around personal relationships, which are fundamentally tied to love, significance, and emotional connection. It doesn’t matter what type of relationship is in question—whether it's between a mother and child, a husband and wife, or friends—these connections are delicate and rooted in profound feelings. Ultimately, they hinge on the concept of authentic closeness.
LOVE IS ESSENTIAL
Love is a powerful force that impacts everyone universally. Regardless of opinions, love holds paramount importance; it is arguably the most significant aspect of our existence. We chase after love and simultaneously flee from it, desiring it above all else. When we feel deprived of love or lack it, we often mask this longing with various distractions.
LOVE AND THE HEART
When the heart is in pain, it feels as though the entire being suffers—physically and emotionally—because our lives are intertwined with love. Unlike when we experience issues with other organs, which might feel localized (like a sharp pain in the side), heartache envelops us entirely. Without love, life loses its essence.
Consequently, when one feels overwhelmed, it typically indicates a loss of love—either internally or externally. Our role becomes one of support in helping that person rediscover love.
A NOTE ON BELIEFS
There's a small nuance here for both believers and atheists. Referring to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, love and relationships are positioned at the third level, out of five. When an individual is unaware of their emotional state (such as the longing for an ideal maternal figure), they may feel completely undone when relationships falter. However, if they come to terms with the fact that an ideal mother is a myth—recognizing that mothers are human and have their flaws—they can better cope with relational challenges.
This understanding allows them to realize that there are further steps to self-fulfillment beyond love: the final stage being self-actualization, or the recognition of one's own worth and love.
In this video, "Modern Russian Music: Yulia Savicheva - 'If There's Love in Your Heart'," the essence of love is beautifully captured, illustrating its profound impact on our lives.
Chapter 2: Embracing the Reality of Love
The video "If Love Lives In The Heart (Hardstyle Remix)" echoes the theme of love's centrality in our lives, emphasizing its role in shaping our experiences.