Chapter 1: Understanding Personal Success

Many individuals strive to meet society's standards of success without reflecting on whether these ideals truly resonate with them. If you find yourself in this situation, remember: there's no need to impose such high expectations on yourself.

When you inquire about the meaning of success from others—if they even have clarity on it—you might often hear responses like:

• A luxurious car, perhaps multiple — think Mercedes, BMW, Lexus
• An impressive home — spacious, complete with a pool, situated in an upscale neighborhood
• A prestigious corporate role — something to boast about
• An appealing partner

Such a narrow definition of success can lead to dissatisfaction. Why is that? Because individuals may end up achieving goals that ultimately do not fulfill them. To avoid disappointment, take a moment to reflect on what success means to you personally. Your vision might be as simple as enjoying a carefree lifestyle, exploring the globe, or managing a business from the comfort of your home while wearing pajamas.

What legacy do I want to leave for my children?

As you approach the end of your journey, what do you hope to reflect on? Is it the accumulation of wealth and a vast business empire, or a legacy of kindness and adventure? Consider how you wish to spend your time and the financial resources you aspire to leave behind. What do you want to be remembered for?

What are my core values?

A fulfilling life is often one that aligns with your values. While many have a general understanding of what matters to them, few take the time to contemplate it deeply. Grab a piece of paper and jot down your values, or consult resources like the 10 Core American Values for inspiration.

Create a list of experiences you wish to have, ranging from thrilling activities like skydiving to visiting the Great Wall of China. Keep this list somewhere visible, like on your refrigerator, to remind you of your aspirations.

What kind of life do I want to lead?

Your desires could range from a traditional family setup with children and a white picket fence to living solo in a Manhattan condo, immersing yourself in the vibrant nightlife for the first two decades of adulthood.

What will it take for me to feel successful?

Visualize different scenarios and determine what would make you feel accomplished. Would you find fulfillment in a rustic cabin in the woods with minimal obligations, or in a grand penthouse? Explore various careers and lifestyles to see which ones resonate with your personal definition of success.

Above all, stay true to yourself. Reflect on your life, your family, and your relationships. You may already be more successful than you realize.

Looking back, I have only a few regrets. One that stands out is my failure to pursue higher education.

What if nobody would ever know?

The allure of owning a Ferrari might symbolize success, but would it still feel like an accomplishment if no one was aware of it? True success should not hinge on others' opinions. Seek a version of success that holds personal significance, regardless of public recognition.

There is no single definition of success; it's crucial not to fall into the trap of seeking validation from friends and family. Cultivate a personal understanding of success that aligns with your values, and you may find it is more gratifying and attainable than societal benchmarks.

Can you articulate your own definition of success? It should come from a place of genuine passion for what you do and how you live. Remember, before you can love others, you must first love yourself. Will you embrace the person you have become?

The first video, How To Find Your Own Definition of Success, explores the importance of crafting a personal understanding of success that reflects individual values and aspirations.

The second video, Decide Your Definition of Success, emphasizes the significance of making a conscious choice regarding what success means to you, free from societal pressures.