Conquering the Lies That Hinder Your Writing Journey
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Chapter 1: The Illusion of Writing Romance
Many people envision writing as a glamorous pursuit. I once imagined myself in a Bali café, enjoying an iced oat milk latte while penning brilliant articles under the sun. Unfortunately, reality didn’t align with that picture.
The real obstacle wasn’t the heat or the glare on my screen; it was my own ego. It undermined my efforts and nearly pushed me to abandon writing altogether. But I’ve decided to take charge. After allowing my ego to spin too many tales, I’m now committed to pushing through. Here’s how you can do the same.
Writing isn’t always as romantic as it seems; often, it’s a battle against self-doubt and unrealistic expectations.
Section 1.1: The Myth of Deserving More
“You deserve more,” is a mantra many writers cling to. When I embarked on my writing journey on Medium in 2020, I was convinced I deserved quicker success and greater visibility. I felt unfairly treated by the algorithm. Reflecting on that now, I realize how misguided that belief was.
You are exactly where you need to be. While it’s essential to strive for improvement and consider writing as a viable side hustle, it’s crucial to understand that your current position is valid. Our ego often leads us to adopt a victim mentality, especially in today’s culture of offense.
If we’re not performing well, we need to acknowledge it and focus on growth rather than feeling insulted.
Subsection 1.1.1: The Trap of Future Happiness
“You’ll be happy when…” is another falsehood many writers fall for. Back in 2017, my dream was to make a living through writing. Four years later, I can confirm that it has its perks, but it also comes with challenges, and I’m not necessarily happier.
After achieving a monthly income of $3000 within two months of writing, I reached over $8000 last January. Did that bring me joy? Not particularly. The longing for more can lead to perpetual dissatisfaction. Embracing the present with all its complexities is vital for finding happiness.
Section 1.2: The Illusion of Control
“You’re in control” is another deceptive notion. I should have recognized that truth when I attempted to meticulously plan my early twenties. Control is an enticing myth.
It took me 150 articles to gain my first 1000 followers, while the next milestones came much faster, 16 and 15 articles later for 2000 and 3000 followers, respectively. However, that rapid growth didn’t sustain itself.
The algorithm may be crafted by humans, but it operates on the principle of unpredictability. You cannot dictate how your work will be received. Instead of fixating on control, concentrate on producing quality content and honing your craft.
Writing on platforms like Medium is a stark reminder of reality and a test of one’s ego. The discomfort it brings is why many writers give up. By setting aside your ego and consistently producing work, you’re already ahead of the curve.
Chapter 2: Embracing the Process
Michael Singer discusses the importance of letting go of your ego and surrendering to life, which is essential for any writer seeking to grow and improve.
In "16 Lies You Need To Stop Telling Yourself," the video outlines misconceptions that hinder personal and professional growth, particularly in writing.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. What challenges has your ego presented you in your writing journey? Share your thoughts in the comments.